The Queen of apology

First I would like to apologize - to you and also to myself. I apologize, that I haven't posted anything for 2,5 week. 2,5 week might not be long – but for me it's been way to long I've put my writing aside.

First; our internet didn't work for 1 week (apology accepted, right?) and second; I've been extremely busy with my new full time work in kindergarten, with my part time waitress job and... Just life. If you've read my blogpost, about me bitching, about the excuse of not having time, it's just not a priority and you would like to throw that in my face, I understand – because you're right.

Lately writing hasn't been a priority. I've simply prioritized making money, spending time with my boyfriend, spending time with my friends and practicing yoga.

Sometimes you are forced to prioritize for your own well-being. Sometimes I prioritize my writing over something else and sometimes I don't. And that's perfectly okay. It's kind of ironic, that I am apologizing, when I am about to write about never apologizing unnecessarily. I shouldn't apologize for my priorities. But then again, that's just me and my habit.

I don't know about you, but many of us apologize way too often – even when we haven't done anything wrong.

It's typical things that is beyond our control – for example a bad weather, during a party we are hosting.

Or when somebody else was in the wrong – like when the waiter brings us a different meal, than what we've ordered.

Sometimes we apologize, if other people are treating us badly, because we wan't to ensure, that we haven't unintentionally treated them badly as well.

Sometimes we even apologize, for the choices we have every right to make – like how we choose to live our lives.

We are all searching for some kind of belonging and along with our fear, of being let outside, we do everything we can, to make sure that we still are in the good graces from our social circle.

It's highly admirable to apologize, when we truly did something wrong or if we hurt someone else. But there are certain things, certain choices, we need to own up to and never apologize for.

So here a list of things you never should apologize for;

1. Removing someone from your life that repeatedly hurts you or crosses your boundaries.

2. Being who you are, and feeling your feelings.

3. Trusting your instincts, even if you can't explain it.

4. Never apologize if you're not truly sorry. Don't apologize just because someone demands an apology.

5. Making yourself a priority. Making “me” time.

6. Your opinion.

7. Standing up for what you believe in.

8. Living life the way you choose to, regardless of fitting in with other people's norms.

9. Making decisions about your own future that don’t do any harm to anyone.

10. Being sensitive.

11. Leaving anything that's weighing you down.

12. Having time to grieve.

13. Speaking the truth. It ain't always pleasant, but it's better to know what's really in someone's heart.

14. Speaking up when someone hurts you.

15. Taking a break and doing absolutely nothing for ten minutes.

16. Being a free dreamer.

17. Having your own goals

18. Making your own priorities.

19. Choosing what you think is best for your life.

20. Apologizing too much.

Knowing that we don't necessarily have to apologize, as often as we possibly do, we might still fall back into our old habit. But you know what? That is perfectly okay.

The whole point of the process and learning of apologizing less, is to build confidence in ourselves and our choices. We are embracing ourselves and put ourselves in focus.

And if we're not hurting other people with our choices, there's no need to apologize.

Is there one thing you've realized, you don't need to apologize for? Have you ever apologized for something on this list?